“There’s a perception of autistic people and people with [intellectual and developmental disabilities] overall, that we’re not able to make our own decisions. Big decisions like those around health care, education, living arrangements.”
If you’re trans I think it’s important that you know that TERFs are using anti-trans rhetoric to stop autistic people from transitioning. Autistic people are highly likely to be trans, genderqueer, nb, or otherwise gnc.
We deserve the right to transition.
Autistic people already face frequent barriers to transition within existing medical systems. Here in the Netherlands those can range from longer diagnosis to being told to ‘work on your autism first’ to simple refusals to diagnose and prescribe care to a trans person because they are autistic.
One of the many examples of why our fight for self determination and access to transition care must be intersectional.
Communicating with my cat is so crazy, it’s like, you watch my back for predators when I sleep. You meow only because you know that I vocalize often, but the words I use are nothing to you unless they’re associated with things relevant to your little baby life (food, for example). You slow blink at me because you feel safe with me. You point your ass at my face, indicating that you trust me to watch your back for predators, because you feel safe with me. You sit in my lap and sleep pressed against my side because you need to warm yourself up, and you trust me to warm you. I know this because I have access to information. If I didn’t, these things would be weird to me. I call you Lulu, but you don’t need a name for me; you have your senses to identify me. You smell me to identify me. You nuzzle me with your head to mark me as family with your scent. We ARE family. You are both the baby I feed and the elderly little lady who watches over me. It’s a very special and pure interspecies bond. I have a concept of “love” that is metaphysical, conceptual; you have an instinctual bond to those that you “trust” to help you survive (and that you, in turn, help to survive). You DO aid my survival on an emotional level that you can’t possibly understand, because you try to aid me on the physical level that comes naturally to you. Who said survival of the fittest has no room for love? We share the pure love of deep friendship because you and I must survive. My creature, Lulu, my best friend. My stinky.
Just because something works for you doesn’t mean it works for someone else or vice versa.
Just because it helped you to forgive your abuser doesn’t mean that everyone has to forgive in order to heal.
Just because it helped you and gave you closure to report doesn’t mean everyone has to report to heal.
Just because being angry was bad for you and caused you harm doesn’t mean being angry is bad for someone else.
There is no one way to heal. Everyone is different and heals differently. Assuming that because something worked for you, therefore it must work for everyone else is wrong and ignores the fact that we’re all individuals on our own healing journey.
Something being right for you doesn’t make it right for everyone. Something being harmful to you doesn’t mean it’s harmful to everyone.
“Everybody wants her to get back on her feet and be the best version of herself, but that stuff doesn’t happen overnight. That’s not the way mental health works.” They added that the conspiracy theories in her Instagram comments and on Twitter and TikTok are actively harming Spears’s well-being, mimicking the constant surveillance of the conservatorship and the tabloids. “Every time conspiracy theories get a lot of attention, they destabilize a situation where she’s trying to gain trust and then it sets everybody back.””
I’m going to take my final exam for my trauma recovery coaching course in a hotel room fueled by only hope and maybe a little bit of residual girl power left over from the other night.
the thing that gets me about about barbie is that barbie land wasn’t even purposefully a matriarchy, barbie land came about because of the way little girls were playing with their barbies, it wasn’t created by mattel it was created by the people using the toys, so the fact that the barbies ignored the ken’s and had girls night every night wasn’t because they had some bias against him, it was just an accurate depiction of how kids play with barbies. I had some ken dolls as a child and they were essential to the plot in the sense that of course my barbie has a boyfriend because that represented the world i saw around me, but also he didn’t have any purpose in my dream world because i was only interested in what the girls were doing because they represented me and how i wanted to be, I wanted girls night every night I wanted the girls to be president and austronauts and not because of some inherent feminist idea but because I was a girl and I wasn’t thinking about boys, ken was an accessory. this movie wasn’t made to change the world but it showed a different perspective than what we usually see which I thought was fun. Men don’t have to be the centre of all our stories and its not even because we hate them, sometimes we’re just not thinking about them
I’ve learned the valuable lesson that you shouldn’t have alcohol while still experiencing jet lag, but I did have a lot of fun at The Spice Girls hotel yesterday so I’m not sure if I’ll fully retain the lesson 🤷🏻♀️.
